As Internet talk show hosts,
we all recognized that well before we opened our mouths and utter a word or words, we must first ‘think through the consequences of what is said and advised.’ The wrong words or the wrong advice can often land you in jail or sued for defamation of character.
Many talk hosts use a prepared script to avoid that particular embarrassment or a teleprompter (political candidates) so that sticking to the prepared written script will prevent them from uttering words that they hadn’t planned on saying.
Other talk show hosts use cue cards, index cards, paper squares with written phrases and key words that helps them keep to the topic currently being discussed.
Then you have the rest of us talk hosts that speak from the hip. The only difference being is while I know ahead of time how to think on my feet, there are plenty of hosts out there that don’t know how to think on their feet and their sentences and words come out twisted and wrong. What one teen told
me was “a hot mess!”
What are ‘hot messes’ and why are they so difficult to clean up afterwards?
Listen to your favorite political candidate while doing a speech, answering a reporter’s or journalist’s question or speaking to a group of people to get them riled up. Does his/her audience pay attention to the words that this person is using? Or, are they more focused on that person’s body and facial language that tells them allot more than any mere words can do.
When these people speak, are they speaking from the heart? their brain? a memorized prepared text?
Or as society
as termed it “do we put our respective feet in our mouths?” I remember when I was in school that it was quite easy to put your foot in if you were speaking from ignorance, not knowing what you were saying, but making it up along the way or have a friend speak for you, but often they included defamatory words.
Hot messes. We all know why we love watching politicians on television. They provide entertainment for us just when we thought our planet was too ordinary for words. Political candidates don’t seem to know when to stop.
Talk show hosts are like that as well. They just don’t know or understand when it’s time to call it quits and end the paragraph, end the sentence or better yet retract their words as politely as possible.
I know that confrontation is a huge task for any sane person. When you say the wrong thing, then it’s time for you to confront yourself and shut up.
There are several ways to control your mouth.
You can start singing one of the many Beatles songs that are out there. In one of my grandson’s favorite animated cartoons, the bugs burst into song to help the adults and 3 year old figure out how they’re going to handle the mess they put themselves in.
You can cough or clear your throat. That always works well.
You can sneeze, clutch your stomach or something really dramatic, faint!
You can stop speaking and apologize. A personal favorite. “I’m sorry I said those things. My mother made me do it!”
And so it goes. This problem of knowing when to shut up and keep quiet or to speak so that whatever comes out of your mouth doesn’t offend anyone, least of all, yourself!