When Failure Isn’t An Option
Have you noticed that the new in thing is ‘failures are not failures.’ Failures have now become the new learning, the new training for those who fail. When I was in school failing grades was a bad sign both for the teachers and the student’s parents. It didn’t bother me. There were some subjects that I was better in than others. But to the adults in my life, failure meant one thing. I wasn’t working hard enough. I didn’t understand the material. I wasn’t applying myself. etc, you get the message. Today, the message has changed. Failing isn’t an option anymore. Failing is now expected of you if you try hard enough. There’s always declaring bankruptcy and starting over. You can always remarry. You can always walk away and count what money you have left.
For future talk show hosts, failure can mean many things. Not taking decisive action when called upon.
Not making the right decision versus making a bad decision.
Making the wrong choice.
Being taken in by phonies.
The list goes on.
However, the future talk show host
should also realize that failure doesn’t lead down a dark and lonely road. There are plenty of failures out on the internet that tell you plainly that they have failed, but look out. Like the Phoenix, they have risen from the flames. Talk Show Host’s don’t wear failures well. It shows in their loss of revenue. It shows in audience decrease. It shows in less people following you. It hurts when you’re asked to leave because you’re not sharing in the universal approval rating of the station.
How do you as future talk show host avoid failure?
There’s no sure try and true method. Like most people you need to find the cracks and crevices as you march along. If you stumble and fall, make sure there’s someone who catches your back.
It’s called collaboration. It does make a difference. There’s another way, too. Have a contingency plan in place. You know, the plan that your parents, relatives, and boss remind you about every day of your life. Having a plan in place will take off some of the pressure. Why? Because you have a blueprint to follow when all else fails. There’s a small bit of insurance for you so when you’re axed, you don’t fall apart. Your emotions don’t kick in and scream, “You’re a Failure.”
Nope, in my world, it’s called “A Prepared Failure!”
When one ventures out into the wide, wide, wide world of business whether as an innovator, expectations, or demands, there’s no clear choice of what that particular person should do or not not. Or as Shakespeare famously had Hamlet say “To be or not to be, that is the question,” that is indeed the question.
Choosing the right Question
In the work world there are certain laws that one must obey in order to achieve success. However, sometimes that road to success doesn’t always come easily. That’s because we don’t always pick the right road to take in the first place.
Never mind the Giants for now. We’re all following a certain path. A certain paved road whether it’s full of good or bad intentions or whether it’s yellow-brick or strewn with red roses, we all are going in the same general direction.
How we get there is altogether a different question. Why?
Because many of us are measuring up to that ‘chosen’ ladder already pre-determined by other people. These people are labeled the “expectations” versus the ‘demands” folk.
How different can they be? Plenty. They make a big difference whether of following your nose, getting there by the seat of your pants, or just measuring up to the line drawn on the wall or door.
How many of us measure up to what we think is the right way to go versus what others might think or deem appropriate for us.
Expectations versus Demands
When I was one and twenty, I heard a wise man say, and then you hear the words of the wise man. How many of you follow the words of the wise man and do what you think is the right approach to take. Do the task the way we think it ought be done and be damned to the rest of you. I found after graduating from college that my parents held Great Expectations for me as opposed to my professors who had Great Demands that I must comply with.
Think about it. What expectations were expected of you when you graduated from college or high school? Let me name a few.
Get a job.
Get a girlfriend or boyfriend.
Get a huge salary.
Be famous. Or infamous.
Here’s a goodie. Win at any cost!
You’ve heard these types of exclamations before from your parents, relatives, and good friends.
What about the Demands that are made of you? Are they impossible to fill?
Come out of the closet.
Get rich quick.
Pass that test as long as you don’t get caught!
Were these demands ridiculous or did they touch a nerve deep inside of you that spurred you further along your career goals?
When did you stop to think of the consequences of these acts? This expectations versus demands?
If you knew now what you didn’t know before, would you still done it? Would you have gone ahead and won at any cost and as long as you didn’t get caught, everything is right with the world?
I sometimes wonder as I get set to teach a course or webinar to a bunch of folks what really drive them to do what they want to do or what their parents or spouses want them to do. Is it the same thing?
If it isn’t, why not? How are you as an young-adult (college-age) versus adult (after college) suppose to act when you, yourself, and I don’t know what the proper format is for behaving?
Are you an “expectations” person versus a “demand” person.
Will this change your personality, too?
I often wonder if people could do a re-do whether or not their re-do would be an exact replica of what they did previously. I’ve been told no. Everything would change. But I wonder.
If you don’t change, how can you change when re-doing the same exact stuff that you did before? And will the expectations and demand change or will they remain the same?
So, when was the last time you put yourself in the path(s) of corporate giants?
How successful were you? Did you get stomped on? Did they by-pass you? Step over you? Around you?
Did you see their dust as they sped by?
Or , were you successful? Got those giants to look down and see what was impeding their path?
If you didn’t succeed, why not?
If you did succeed, what did you do that force them to take notice of you? Read More
As Internet talk show hosts,
we all recognized that well before we opened our mouths and utter a word or words, we must first ‘think through the consequences of what is said and advised.’ The wrong words or the wrong advice can often land you in jail or sued for defamation of character.
Many talk hosts use a prepared script to avoid that particular embarrassment or a teleprompter (political candidates) so that sticking to the prepared written script will prevent them from uttering words that they hadn’t planned on saying.
Other talk show hosts use cue cards, index cards, paper squares with written phrases and key words that helps them keep to the topic currently being discussed.
Then you have the rest of us talk hosts that speak from the hip. The only difference being is while I know ahead of time how to think on my feet, there are plenty of hosts out there that don’t know how to think on their feet and their sentences and words come out twisted and wrong. What one teen told
me was “a hot mess!”
What are ‘hot messes’ and why are they so difficult to clean up afterwards?
Listen to your favorite political candidate while doing a speech, answering a reporter’s or journalist’s question or speaking to a group of people to get them riled up. Does his/her audience pay attention to the words that this person is using? Or, are they more focused on that person’s body and facial language that tells them allot more than any mere words can do.
When these people speak, are they speaking from the heart? their brain? a memorized prepared text?
Or as society
as termed it “do we put our respective feet in our mouths?” I remember when I was in school that it was quite easy to put your foot in if you were speaking from ignorance, not knowing what you were saying, but making it up along the way or have a friend speak for you, but often they included defamatory words.
Hot messes. We all know why we love watching politicians on television. They provide entertainment for us just when we thought our planet was too ordinary for words. Political candidates don’t seem to know when to stop.
Talk show hosts are like that as well. They just don’t know or understand when it’s time to call it quits and end the paragraph, end the sentence or better yet retract their words as politely as possible.
I know that confrontation is a huge task for any sane person. When you say the wrong thing, then it’s time for you to confront yourself and shut up.
There are several ways to control your mouth.
You can start singing one of the many Beatles songs that are out there. In one of my grandson’s favorite animated cartoons, the bugs burst into song to help the adults and 3 year old figure out how they’re going to handle the mess they put themselves in.
You can cough or clear your throat. That always works well.
You can sneeze, clutch your stomach or something really dramatic, faint!
You can stop speaking and apologize. A personal favorite. “I’m sorry I said those things. My mother made me do it!”
And so it goes. This problem of knowing when to shut up and keep quiet or to speak so that whatever comes out of your mouth doesn’t offend anyone, least of all, yourself!
Ah, the importance of deliverance. It has allot of meanings, mostly biblical, but for today, deliverance means something entirely different.
When a person speaks peer-to-peer, peer-to-audience, peer-to-the world or family or friends, relatives, it means that they are delivering message. It could be important. It could be note-worthy. It could be the difference between life and death. It’s importance of how it is said — how it is uttered — will make all the difference since. Read More