When one ventures out into the wide, wide, wide world of business whether as an innovator, expectations, or demands, there’s no clear choice of what that particular person should do or not not. Or as Shakespeare famously had Hamlet say “To be or not to be, that is the question,” that is indeed the question.
Choosing the right Question
In the work world there are certain laws that one must obey in order to achieve success. However, sometimes that road to success doesn’t always come easily. That’s because we don’t always pick the right road to take in the first place.
Never mind the Giants for now. We’re all following a certain path. A certain paved road whether it’s full of good or bad intentions or whether it’s yellow-brick or strewn with red roses, we all are going in the same general direction.
How we get there is altogether a different question. Why?
Because many of us are measuring up to that ‘chosen’ ladder already pre-determined by other people. These people are labeled the “expectations” versus the ‘demands” folk.
How different can they be? Plenty. They make a big difference whether of following your nose, getting there by the seat of your pants, or just measuring up to the line drawn on the wall or door.
How many of us measure up to what we think is the right way to go versus what others might think or deem appropriate for us.
Expectations versus Demands
When I was one and twenty, I heard a wise man say, and then you hear the words of the wise man. How many of you follow the words of the wise man and do what you think is the right approach to take. Do the task the way we think it ought be done and be damned to the rest of you. I found after graduating from college that my parents held Great Expectations for me as opposed to my professors who had Great Demands that I must comply with.
Think about it. What expectations were expected of you when you graduated from college or high school? Let me name a few.
Get a job.
Get a girlfriend or boyfriend.
Get a huge salary.
Be famous. Or infamous.
Here’s a goodie. Win at any cost!
You’ve heard these types of exclamations before from your parents, relatives, and good friends.
What about the Demands that are made of you? Are they impossible to fill?
Come out of the closet.
Get rich quick.
Pass that test as long as you don’t get caught!
Were these demands ridiculous or did they touch a nerve deep inside of you that spurred you further along your career goals?
When did you stop to think of the consequences of these acts? This expectations versus demands?
If you knew now what you didn’t know before, would you still done it? Would you have gone ahead and won at any cost and as long as you didn’t get caught, everything is right with the world?
I sometimes wonder as I get set to teach a course or webinar to a bunch of folks what really drive them to do what they want to do or what their parents or spouses want them to do. Is it the same thing?
If it isn’t, why not? How are you as an young-adult (college-age) versus adult (after college) suppose to act when you, yourself, and I don’t know what the proper format is for behaving?
Are you an “expectations” person versus a “demand” person.
Will this change your personality, too?
I often wonder if people could do a re-do whether or not their re-do would be an exact replica of what they did previously. I’ve been told no. Everything would change. But I wonder.
If you don’t change, how can you change when re-doing the same exact stuff that you did before? And will the expectations and demand change or will they remain the same?